STAGES OF LOVE

 STAGES OF LOVE

INITIAL ATTRACTION / INFATUATION – characterized by intense feelings, excitement and focus on the positive aspect of relationship. It feels during school day in teenage year a crush or a “puppy love”

HONEYMOON PHASE – this is the period of euphoria and romantic bliss often marked by heightened emotional and a strong desire of intimacy.

DISILLUSIONMENT/POWER STRUGGLE – as the initial excitement fades, couple may encounter challenges and disagreement leading to a period of conflict and adjustment.

ATTACHMENT/COMMITMENT – this stage involves building a deeper connection, developing trust and making conscious decision to be together tong-term.

STABILITY/DEEP ATTACHMENT – characterized as a strong sense of security and understanding

DEATH – the last stage, the deepest and most profound love experiences are often compounded by loss and grief which can be seen in the final, albeit act of love.

LANGUAGE OF LOVE

 WORD AFFIRMATION – verbal communication that is encouraging affirmative and appreciative can be shown by spoken and written.

PHYSICAL TOUCH – expressing and receiving love through physical affection such as hug, cuddles and hold hand emphasizing closeness and emotional connection. While physical intimacy is part of it, the physical touch love language encompasses a broader range of physical contact including non-sexual touch like a comforting hug, or a hand on the shoulder. Massage or back rubs providing physical relaxation and sense of care. Gentle touches, a light touch on arm, a kiss on a forehead or stroking someone’s hair. Physical touch can boost oxytocin (the love hormone) reduce stress, strengthen emotional bonds. It’s important to note that physical touches as a language of love doesn’t necessarily through physical closeness and affection. It’s crucial to respect your partners boundaries and ensure that all physical touch is consensual and comfortable for both individuals.

GIFT – means you feel love (or that you’re demonstrating love) with a tangible item. It is a way of showing that you are willing to invest time and effort to make him/her happy. Every love gift you gives carries the message of love and caring that words sometimes cannot express.

QUALITY TIME – showing love and affection by giving some your undivided attention and engagement during shared activities or conversations, focusing on emotional presence and connection. Sign that you have a quality time love language, you feel most loved when someone gives you their undivided attention. You enjoy deep conversation and shared experiences. You feel hurt when your partner is distracted or not present when you’re together. To show quality time to someone put away your phone and other distractions when you’re with them. Make eye contact and engage in thoughtful conversation schedule regular quality time together, even if it’s just for a few minutes each day. It’s not important how long or short the time that you are together most important make it as a quality time. Be present and attentive during shared activities.

ACT OF SERVICE –showing love and appreciation through action and helpful deeds rather than words or gifts, focusing on taking something off your partner to-do list. Focus on action not words. Take initiative to do things that make their life easier or more enjoyable. Thoughtful deeds there are not only about doing chores but about recognizing and addressing your partner’s needs without being asked, showing you are care and paying attention. It’s not about grand gesture, act of service can be simple, everyday gesture that show you are care and willing to help like cooking, cleaning, giving back or neck massage or doing something for them that they would like. Understand your partner’s need.