CHANGE PEOPLE WITHOUT OFFENDING THEM

 9 WAYS TO CHANGE PEOPLE WITHOUT GIVING OFFENCER OR AROUSING RESENTMENT. BE A LEADER

1. Begin with Praise and Honest Appreciation

      Begin with a praise is like the dentist who begin his/her work with Novocain. The patients still get drilling, but the Novocain is a painkiller. It is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praise of our good points.

 

2. Call Attention to People’s Mistakes Indirectly 

      Simply changing one three letter word can often spell the difference failure and success in changing people without giving offense or arousing resentment. Many people begin their criticism with sincere praise followed by the word “but” and ending with a critical statement. This could be easily overcome by changing the word “but” to “and”. Calling attention to one’s mistakes indirectly works wonders with sensitive people who may resent bitterly any direct criticism.

3. Talk About Your Own Mistake Before Criticizing the Other Person

      It isn’t nearly so difficult to listen to a recital of your faults if the person criticizing begins by humbly admitting that he/she, too is far from impactable. Imagine what humanity and praise can do for you and me in our daily contacts. Rightfully used, they will work veritable miracles in human relation. Admitting one’s own mistake-even when one hasn’t corrected them-can help convince somebody to change his behaviour.  

4. Ask Question Instead of Giving Direct Orders

      Always give suggestion not orders. Always give the people the opportunity to do things themselves. A technique like that make it easy for a people to correct errors. A technique like that saves a person’s pride and give him or she a feeling of importance. It encourages cooperation instead of rebellion. Resentment cause by a rash order my last a long time even if the order was given to correct an obviously by situation and was justified. Asking question not only makes an order more palatable, if often stimulate the creativity of the person whom you ask. People are more likely to accept an order if they have had a part in the decision that caused the order to be issued.

5. Let the Other Person Saved Face

      We ride roughshod over the feelings of others, getting our own way, finding fault, issuing threats, criticizing a child or an employee in front of others, without even considering the hurt    to the other person’s pride. Whereas a few minutes thought of considerate word or two a genuine understanding of the other person’s attitude, would go so far towards alleviating the sting.

6. Praise the Slightest Improvement and Praise every Improvement. Be Heartly in your Approbation and Lavish is your Praise.

      Everybody liked to be praised, but when praise is specific it come across as sincere-not something the other person may be saying just to make one feel good. Remember, we all crave appreciation and recognition and will do almost anything to get it. But nobody wants insincerity. Nobody wants flattery.

7. Give the Other Person a Fine Reputation to live up to.

       The average person can be led readily if you have his or her respect and if you show that you respect that person for some kind of ability. In short if you want to improve a person in a certain aspect as act as through that particular traits were already one of his or her outstanding characteristic. Give them a fine reputation to live up to and they will make prodigious effort rather than see you disillusioned.

8. Use Encouragement Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct

      Be liberal with your encouragement, make the things seems easy to do, let the other person know that you have faith in his or her ability to do it.  That he or she have an undeveloped flair for it. And he will practice until the dawn comes in the window in order to excel.

9. Make the Other Person Happy About Doing the Things You Suggest

     Be sincere. Do not promise anything that you cannot deliver. Forget about the benefits to yourself and concentrate on the benefits to the other person.  Know exactly what it is you want the other people to do. Be empathetic. Asked yourself what it is the other person really wants. Consider the benefits that person will receive from doing what you suggest. Match those benefits to the person you want. We you make a request, put it in a form that you will convey to the other person, the ideas that he personally will benefit.